since sunday, i am as close to what stay-at-home moms could have as sick leave: as long as hubby is home, he takes over taking care of the kid and the household. and he has been handling it like superman. mornings, he gets j ready for kindergarten and brings him there. he comes home early from work, change j’s nappies, and take j with him shopping or out to the playground. when they’re back, he’ll tidy up the flat and wash the dishes while cooking dinner. he feeds jan, hangs the laundry, brush j’s teeth, get him ready for bed and finally put him to sleep. and all these time, i’m lying around useless in a makeshift bunk in the living room, cast away from the bedroom lest the little one catches my flu. (is it a wonder i’ve been thru 5 pinoy movies -courtesy of AnP- in 2 days?) when the little one is off to dreamland, he goes back to the living room, makes sure i have everything i need within reach, bids me goodnight and gives me a five-minute hug before he drags himself to bed, exhausted to the bone.

in this home, we don’t have a 50-50 division of labor in household chores. it’s more like 80-20. sometimes i do 80%, he does 20%. sometimes it’s the other way around. on days like these, he’s doing 95% and i’m barely managing my 5%.

and it’s days like these that confirms i’ve chosen the right partner for life. we’ve outgrown the mushy doe-eyed lovestruck sweeter-than-honey stage… i think. oh, i still get unexpected flowers and chocolates now and then, and my heart still skips a beat when i get them. but i guess, the things that i consider as expressions of love have changed a bit. i’ve never been one to be awed by material things anyway, but i appreciate it most when hubby does errands/favors/service/(what’s a collective term for these???) for me. and for j. that’s when i feel we’re really building a family together, putting our marriage vows into practice.

…for richer or for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
til death do us part…

(ugh, i’ve always found that last line a tad bit morbid!)

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