i don’t know how she does it, but she does!
ibyang is my one my working-mom idols. she pampers her boys to the hilt, i sometimes fear she’s gonna spread herself too thin in the end. some people say it’s not possible to run a household and be a full-time employee as well, and excel in both. wrong! ibyang does most of the housework herself, including tutoring her two kids. her sons are well-behaved and smart, gaining entry into top schools and joining national-level competitions. professionally, i’ve always believed she has the right aptitude for scientific research, something i’ve always doubted i had. she has the natural curiosity and brilliant mental workings needed in such a job. ah basta, i have high respect for this person, professionally and personally. even in her decision making, bilib ako. but most of all, i am amazed with how she derives happiness from the most simple of things. and that makes her one of the people i NEED in my life. my inbox is full of old emails from her, which i read and re-read when i’m feeling queer. if i need wisdom and pragmatism, or solace when i’m feeling depressed, i know she’s just a click away. isn’t it great to have a friend like that?
ibyang gave birth to another bouncing baby boy about a month ago. it has been a difficult pregnancy and birth, but am so happy for her that the little bub is finally there. naturally, i was even more thrilled to find out she plans to make me godmother to her youngest! well, i advised her against it, saying the poor kid might just learn pure evil with me, hehe, but seems like a second knot will secure our being kumares.
lately, i’ve been of thinking that perhaps having children is a privilege. i know that there are people who could not have children, but that’s not what i’m referring to. if i’m allowed to put it brutally, i just think that for various reasons, there are people who simply SHOULD not be entitled to having children. but if there ever was a woman who has earned the privilege to be prolific, it’s ibyang. the way she’s raising those kids, she’s doing the society a whole lot of good. which kinda makes my role easy as godmother, eh?
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10 Responses to “i don’t know how she does it, but she does!”
August 12th, 2004 at
ang galing naman ng kaibigan mo ruthie. pero tama ang sinabi mo. some people should not be entitled to have children. at the minimum, some people shouldn’t have too many children.
August 12th, 2004 at
hay naku, mang batjay, talk to the pope, hehe… but i agree. kaso pag pinoy ang kausap mo (or kahit siguro anong nationality), debatable yan. how many is too many? personally, ok na ako sa 2, marami na ang tatlo. hindi ko na kayang mag-alaga ng mas marami pa dyan!
August 12th, 2004 at
siyempre nabura ko ung first comment ko! Arrgh! Oh well anyway, i would like to thank you for the gift. Sayang you didnt make it last night. it was rilly fun! But your thought of WANTING to go to my despedida party is enough. Sayang lang i wont be able to see u before i go. but im pretty sure that we’ll be seeing each other again sumtime. Get well soon! Ü
August 12th, 2004 at
R: sino si ibyang? bilib naman ako sa kanya…ako nga di full-time work, di ko magawa yung pagka-superwoman niyang friend mo. anyway, i agree na yung iba di dapat bigyan ng anak coz wala naman silang parental skills…kawawa lang yung bata.
August 12th, 2004 at
wow.. your friend gives a whole meaning to the word Supermom.Wish we could be like that
August 12th, 2004 at
hi ruthie! i admire women like ibyang and there should be more of her! I try to be the person that ibyang is that while I flourish in my career, my family life (especially my role as a mother) does not suffer or vice-versa!
Happy weekend!
August 13th, 2004 at
nakakabilib nga si ibyang. sana lahat tayo na gustong maging successful sa career, maging mabuting asawa at ina ay ma-achieve yan.
August 13th, 2004 at
Justice: not because kulang sila sa parental skills. lahat naman tayo started with not knowing anything.
August 13th, 2004 at
AnP: True, we started with nothing, but the “no parental skills” people that I mean are the ones na nandiyan na’t lahat eh talagang pabaya at walang amor sa anak nila…look at the kids sa streets na may magulang nga because di lang nag birth control or whatever reason…tapos ayan…mga bata ang lumalaking nakalaboy. So to them asar ako sa pagka-walang kwenta nila.
August 13th, 2004 at
PARENTAL LOVE pala is the better description sa mga yon.