Comments on: the myth of having it all http://about-ruth.com/2004/10/27/the-myth-of-having-it-all/ filipina. wahm. scientist-on-hold. trailing spouse. philippines. deutschland. singapore. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 19:09:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Karen http://about-ruth.com/2004/10/27/the-myth-of-having-it-all/#comment-675 Karen Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://about-ruth.com/?p=96#comment-675 Before anyone flames or throws rotten tomatoes at you, they should re-read your entry because you clearly stated a caveat. Much as I am for the empowerment and self-fulfilment of women, it also has to be recognised that we have our limits. Something has to give. And how is "quality time" defined anyway? I'll refrain from posting too long a comment but I'll take your thought further: why do high-powered women want children anyway? I hope it's not a substitute for something else. Hala, pati ako mafe-flame na nito! Before anyone flames or throws rotten tomatoes at you, they should re-read your entry because you clearly stated a caveat.

Much as I am for the empowerment and self-fulfilment of women, it also has to be recognised that we have our limits. Something has to give. And how is “quality time” defined anyway?

I’ll refrain from posting too long a comment but I’ll take your thought further: why do high-powered women want children anyway? I hope it’s not a substitute for something else. Hala, pati ako mafe-flame na nito!

]]> By: catsudon http://about-ruth.com/2004/10/27/the-myth-of-having-it-all/#comment-676 catsudon Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://about-ruth.com/?p=96#comment-676 ruth, very well said... ruth, very well said…

]]> By: leirs http://about-ruth.com/2004/10/27/the-myth-of-having-it-all/#comment-677 leirs Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://about-ruth.com/?p=96#comment-677 very well said..relate ako dito.. i have my work yes pero i know where my priorities lie and my work does make me a better person..basta thanks for putting this out there. Ive long stopped answering questions as to why Im still working despite my son's special condition. Kasi napagod na ako mag explain tapos naisip ko why do I have to explain my choices to everyone na wala namang alam kungdi makiaalam. Sorry napahaba. very well said..relate ako dito.. i have my work yes pero i know where my priorities lie and my work does make me a better person..basta thanks for putting this out there. Ive long stopped answering questions as to why Im still working despite my son’s special condition. Kasi napagod na ako mag explain tapos naisip ko why do I have to explain my choices to everyone na wala namang alam kungdi makiaalam. Sorry napahaba.

]]> By: celiaK http://about-ruth.com/2004/10/27/the-myth-of-having-it-all/#comment-678 celiaK Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://about-ruth.com/?p=96#comment-678 Well said, Ruth. Agree with you. I always say before - everything has a price. And for women who chose career over family then it comes in the form of not having children or dysfunctional children/family. There's a very successful career woman here in UK who wrote a book called - You Can Have It All. She was like a superwoman, high flying financial whiz with 5 kids, well managed home and a successful husband. Well, despite the facade their marriage disintegrated and she was left now to contemplate on what went wrong and make up for what she missed with her children. I do feel for her. For me, I work for the money and my priority will always be my family. Still my 'price' for being a working mom is an illness I believe I acquired because of my hectic lifestyle. So the question we working mums shd ask - is it worth it? Sorry napahaba na ito - keep your commentaries coming. Well said, Ruth. Agree with you. I always say before - everything has a price. And for women who chose career over family then it comes in the form of not having children or dysfunctional children/family. There’s a very successful career woman here in UK who wrote a book called - You Can Have It All. She was like a superwoman, high flying financial whiz with 5 kids, well managed home and a successful husband. Well, despite the facade their marriage disintegrated and she was left now to contemplate on what went wrong and make up for what she missed with her children. I do feel for her. For me, I work for the money and my priority will always be my family. Still my ‘price’ for being a working mom is an illness I believe I acquired because of my hectic lifestyle. So the question we working mums shd ask - is it worth it?
Sorry napahaba na ito - keep your commentaries coming.

]]> By: misis14 http://about-ruth.com/2004/10/27/the-myth-of-having-it-all/#comment-679 misis14 Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://about-ruth.com/?p=96#comment-679 my take on this is parenting shouldn't be the sole responsibility of the mother. every father should have his share too....there are many women who have the best of both worlds because of several factors..(1)supportive husband, (2) flexi working hours, (3) sympathetic boss ,(4) they own the company, (5) great support system. my take on this is parenting shouldn’t be the sole responsibility of the mother. every father should have his share too….there are many women who have the best of both worlds because of several factors..(1)supportive husband, (2) flexi working hours, (3) sympathetic boss ,(4) they own the company, (5) great support system.

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