party pooper, who?
visiting friends is no longer as easy when you have a toddler tagging along. especially, when that toddler is as hyperactive as mine. his need to be on constant move and his natural curiosity for everything new and unexplored make jan a truly boisterous child, ergo, un-ideal houseguest. luckily, most of our friends are all married and with children, too. it could be that we are subconsciously drawn to other parents, or maybe it’s just a happenstance that most people our age are already married with kids. but get-togethers are a lot more fun for parents like us when we can bring our child along, knowing the hosts have children of their own. at the very least, there’s the playmate, who will hopefully keep your own child occupied long enough for you to gulp your coffee. and since your hosts are familiar with toddler antics, they wouldn’t mind the extra noise and the kiddie-chaos during and after the party.
knowing that jan has an extra energy pack, however, i choose the households i bring him to. good for his temper, better for my nerves, best for the host’s property. see, not everyone welcomes such a child in their homes. hubby has friends who’d say “yeah, bring jan along!”, but once you’re there, you feel like you’ve dragged an elephant into a china shop. comments like “i’ve never had to put the glass vase up when my niece was here!” or “the neighbor’s son never touched that thorny plant in that corner!” make me edgy and i start counting the minutes until it is politely acceptable to leave the house. one visit and that’s it. ahh, help me pray that these people be “blessed” with a child that sits in a corner and do exactly and only as mommy says.
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18 Responses to “party pooper, who?”
May 10th, 2005 at
Hey Ruthie,
Jan is a well-behaved kid, and I can attest to that FACT!!! You’ve said again and again na he is quite hyper, but seeing him on Steven’s bday proved otherwise.
He is a NORMAL, HAPPY, HEALTHY little boy….I don’t understand why some people expect kids to act like adults. Parang mga hindi dumaan sa pagkabata!
May 10th, 2005 at
he’s in constant move alright, but i’ve seen kids whom i’d never want to welcome in my place or near C3. you know, this kapatid ng aksidente type child, sobrang gulo!
pero you’re right, i’d rather go to a home who have and welcome kids, than those who would just make me feel totally unrelaxed the whole time. 2 pa ang bitbit ko
May 10th, 2005 at
HI ruthie — when Bea was Jan’s age, she was into everything as in di mo masabihan! Thank God I had the nanny back then to help control her when in the company of others.
Isipin mo na lang, Jan’s super bright that’s why he’s hyper and have a natural curiosity for everything and that this is just a stage. I know, I know, easier said than done.
Now, did that make you feel better? hehe
May 11th, 2005 at
exactly the same reason why our social life is practically close to zero. we hardly attend parties of any kind. very seldom as in once or twice a year! even when friends visit me at home, raine is just so demanding i can’t even talk to any of them properly. anyway, nakakalabas lang ako with some friends pag andyan ang kambal sa bahay, iniiwan ko si raine sa kanila! pero very seldom din ito.
May 11th, 2005 at
naiintindihan ko dilemma mo ruthie, kahit wala akong anak..
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minsan nasa pang unawa ng bibisitahing bahay (like us na walang anak)…usually, pinaghahandaan ko mga kiddies na bitbit at binibigyan ko ng laruan para hindi ma bored…PS2 lang katapat minsan + sandwich + juice ( minsan lumpiang prito pa nga eh
pag napadaan ka ng holland, bitbitin mo si Jan at bigyan natin istapegi + Charlie, he he
May 12th, 2005 at
maski pa nga nasa labas like adventure planet, stressful pa rin kung may chikiting na bitbit pero mas less stress pag-husbands ay andoon din, sila yayo eh,hehe
May 12th, 2005 at
my son was that way when he was smaller. good news is it gets easier. no, let me correct myself. you will just trade in one problem for another. you’ll know what i mean in time …
May 12th, 2005 at
if i ever i receive you as a guest, you would feel edgy because in most cases, I disappear with the kids and not my adult guests
cheh is right, the hanau gathering was an advantage because the yayos were there.
May 12th, 2005 at
Aba’y di naman automaton ang mga bata! Mas matakot ka nga kung sunod sila ng sunod sa lahat ng sinasabi at walang resistance.
Kung kapitbahay kita, kahit si Jan lang ang houseguest ko puede na.
May 12th, 2005 at
hehe ruthie, ang bata kapag malikot, walang sakit na nararamdaman yun! be thankful jan is “hyper”, and besides, yung mga taong di nakakaintindi, eh dapat hindi nag-iimbita ng bata sa bahay nila! punta kayo dito, ako ang yaya ni jan..libot kayong mag-asawa, baka pagsawaan ako nin jan kasi mas makulit pa ako sa kanya!
May 12th, 2005 at
ay, taray naman ng ibang friends nyo..naku, pano ba dumisiplina ng bata? dapat yata kinakausap ko na tong baby ko habang nasa loob pa hehe.
May 12th, 2005 at
meron bang ganong bata… yung doing only and exactly as mommy says, ALL THE TIME? i’d be scared if i had a kid like that.
May 12th, 2005 at
ganyan din kami, ruth. most of the time, we just invite friends at home…at least, teritoryo ni bebe S. we once went visited hubby’s aunt who lives alone and has plenty of knick-knacks - a big magnet to a very curious and determined toddler. we only stayed less than an hour coz hubby and i had a hard time running after our bebe.
May 13th, 2005 at
rhada, kasi naman, outnumbered at outshadowed si jan nung party ni steven. namangha siguro na may mas makulit pa sa kanya, hahaha!!!
justice, ikaw wala kang choice, kailangan mong tanggapin si jan sa bahay mo, hahaha!!!
thess, anna, karen, jing: lakas ng loob nyo mag-imbita, ha! porke alam nyong ang lalayo ninyo, hehehe…
cheH, at least sa adv planet, wala syang masisira, di ba?
glo, buti na nga lang, may mga friends din kami (pinoy/halfpinoy households) na may kids roughly the same age din… othewise, naku, shelved muna mga aktibidades….
christine, astig mama (ey, cool site you’ve got there!) and misis14: thanks! at least hindi lang pala ako, hehehe….
analyse, disiplina ba kamo? ewan, nangangapa rin ako eh!
jadevine: exactly! sana ganun lumaki yung baby daughter nila. and then let’s see if they like that, hah!
May 13th, 2005 at
I object, your honor!
aba eh subukan mo kami ni Charlie, tara!! *lol*
May 13th, 2005 at
i can soooo relate to you! paul is uber hyper, i sometimes wonder if there was something wrong in the way we are bringing him up…..and hope that we don’t make the same “mistake” with kevin.
May 13th, 2005 at
Heheh, there’s truly a dividing line between parents and non-parents. But once they have little monster-i mean, little ones of their own…hehehe…Although some people are blessed with a well of patience whether they have children or not.
May 17th, 2005 at
ay ako dinadala ko pa rin si ninna sa mga parties kahit alam kong malikot. aba, proud ata ako at bibo anak ko (read: kasing hyper malamang ni jan, hehe). dala ko lang lagi ang checkbook at profuse apology dialogue ko, just in case meron siyang ma-drop at considered sold