no child’s play
at 8 am today we were already halfway across the city, to check out a (real) kindergarten where jan can enroll this autumn when he turns three. at this rate we are already very late to be looking for one; some parents sign up for the waiting list almost as soon as their child is born just to be sure that they get a place. but we have been faced with the possibility of a move to frankfurt earlier this year which in the end didn’t push through, and that botched up all the planning.
why the pressure? sure, the state is obliged to provide a kindergarten slot for your child, but you wouldn’t want to put your child in just any kiga. seeing how some of the state-run kigas are, i would almost rather keep jan home. well, just almost, hehe. luckily we live in a small city, and we have a bit of a luxury for kindergarten slots. if worse comes to worst, there’s always the parents-initiative kiga nearby that has been advertising vacant slots for the last half-year now. it’s just suspicious why nobody would take the offer. but, among the 10 or so kindergartens in the area, we’re hoping to secure a place for jan in either the one run by caritas or the one run by lebenshilfe.
the caritas-run kiga has a good reputation, being highly recommended by other parents we know from jan’s current playgroup and by hubby’s former colleagues at the university. judging by it’s proximity to the university, i can imagine a lot of children of the faculty being there. and THAT is its main attractive point, for me at least. growing up where i did, i know the merits of being in the right neighborhood/peer group. we haven’t gone for an orientation yet, but in the 2 minutes i spent there to get the application form, i got the impression that it was run by stern old maids (nuns? am not sure). not a lot of fun, i thought. but then, my first impressions are never reliable, so, let’s see.
the kiga run by the lebenshilfe, on the other hand felt so relaxed, so child-friendly and boisterously fun. the lebenshilfe is a social NGO, and this particular kiga attempts to integrate disabled (or is incapacitated more politically correct?) children together with “normal” children (under which jan falls, his only disability being, to follow ME). i think this set-up is mutually beneficial for the disabled and the “normal” children. in a group of 15 children, up to 5 of which can be with disabilities, there are 3 “teachers” and a volunteer helper, ergo 4 adults per 15 kids. and THAT is this kiga’s main selling point. the more adults there are, the more they can cater to the individual needs of the children at a given time. if three kids want to go out and play, while two had a bad sleep and want to just cuddle and read a book, there are enough adults to supervise different activities all at the same time. they get more personalized attention.
when choosing a kiga, you’ll also have to decide beforehand what learning principles you abide by. most of the kiga here in germany are heavy on the learn-by-play principle. actually, it’s really mostly play at this stage anyway. that’s why i wrote teachers with quotation marks. they don’t really teach lessons per se. children are not even expected to know their alphabets before they enter the first grade. however, there are still specialized kigas employing the montessori and waldorf methods of learning. admittedly, i haven’t done a lot of research on these, but i think it doesn’t differ/matter much at this point, unless you’re set on putting your child in montessori/waldorf in primary school. which we are not. so. (okay, this paragraph was pointless, eh?)
oh well, so we’ve signed up for the lebenshilfe-kiga. i hope we get a slot, but we’ve got to have back-up plans just in case we don’t. jan doesn’t necessarily have to leave his present playgroup when he turns three in september, but i don’t think it’s a good idea for him to stay longer. he is more than ripe for the big-kids kindergarten and will be under-stimulated if he doesn’t move on. the question is just… where to?
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21 Responses to “no child’s play”
June 2nd, 2005 at
lucky for jan, he has lots of kigas to choose from. here in our place, dalawa lang ang choice.—you’re right, with how i saw it with C2’s past kiga, learn-by-play sila. kaya nga i was always afraid (more praning) on how they taught the kids to slice an apple thru play. hehe
it’s nice if he’d get a slot in the lebenshilfe-kiga, i think it’s an anvantage for jan to understand how to deal with ‘incapacitated’ kids as early as now. a different respect will be instilled in him, plus, as you said naman, they have enough adults to look after the kids which is very important dahil sa likot ng ganyang age.
June 2nd, 2005 at
Hi,ruth..I had a nice time reading all your back posts. what a great blog you have here.from the design,color,short,interesting entries and most of all pictures of the ’siga of the year’,”jan”,lolz!
you wrote quite a pretty interesting piece about kindergartens there. i’m sure you made the right decision and i hope you get the slot,goodluck!
June 2nd, 2005 at
so i see, germany is facing the same problem. school selection had always been a problem. in france, permanent residents of the quartier are the priority, so in buying a house for example, you have to consider this point too, ya know, neighborhood, social class, etc. at first, i didnt find the relevance and thought frenchguy was kinda ’snob’ when we were searching a house, and now that we started searching for a nursery, i finally got the point…goodluck sa kindergarten hunting..
June 2nd, 2005 at
Oh god, the dreaded time to search for a new kiga/kita! at least, you have better chances there at may magagandang options. goodluck!
June 3rd, 2005 at
m just wondering… have you come across several studies about how kids are already
depressed by the age of 8 or so? one factor they saw was pre-school, and of course, the
parents’ desire to have achiever kids…
anyway… i think it’s really better for pre-schoolers to just be learning socialization and
playing nice (basically, it’s us playing in the streets and having a great time, now, they
just have to do it in ’schools’ because the streets are not safe anymore)…
and i hope more parents will have more faith that their child will ‘catch up’ to otehr kids
who have been bombarded early with basically useless knowledge (for their age)
good luck to Jan and you… *mwah*
June 3rd, 2005 at
Ruth,
naku, may kindergatener ka na….bilis na panahon no? Alexis had the opportunity to be in a german kita run by the Caritas verband, dito rin sa Giessen, close to where we live. i was impressed kasi they have fun in learning. mahilig sila sa arts and crafts. she learned how to speak deutsch, mingled with german kids and was able to “experience” german culture (laternen fest, nikolaus etc).
anyway, kung anik anik na tong naisulat ko when my point really is, GODDLUCK!!!!!!!!!!
June 3rd, 2005 at
hope you find one na hindi lang mag-mi meet ng expectations mo but more to offer. teka, 3 years old, kindergartner? iba talaga german system.
June 3rd, 2005 at
Good luck with the search!
June 3rd, 2005 at
justice, you probably mean there are only 2 state-run kigas. am sure, at the very least there would be church-run kigas there, kung wala mang elternvereins.
analyse, i admit, it sounds snobbish, but well, it’s one part of my son’s future i can control ng konti: his environment. di ba?
AnP, there are also lots of choices there in Ffm, but you have to be reeeeallly early to secure a slot for JP. start hunting for one NOW! hahaha!
delish, yeah burn-out is becoming a problem na no? too competititve na kasi eh. problem lang namin is if we move out of germany back to asia, jan will be “behind” his peers…
rhada: will stephen also attend a german kiga? the AWO-run kiga near the american school in grünbergerstr. is good daw! layo lang sa amin eh.
des, oo nga, magkakaiba ang terms. the german kiga lumps 3-6 yr olds. tapos primary school na ang kasunod. wala yung tinatawag na prep or nursery, ek-ek…
thanks, sachiko, toni!
June 3rd, 2005 at
hey! thanks for the TIP. i never thought, well aksed around, about church-run kigas..will check on that for C3. if not, we’re eyeing the one that has the daycare of C2 para isang lugar lang. er, that is if, nandito pa kami sa area namin or bansang ito bwehehe
June 3rd, 2005 at
justice, check your stadtbüro or jugendamt to have a full listing of childcare possibilities in your area.
June 3rd, 2005 at
Good luck! I know every decision must weigh a lot because Jan’s development depends on it. Hope it all works out!
June 3rd, 2005 at
Does the cost vary from one place to another? Because it varies so much here in San Diego, CA. It really depends on the reputation of the school, and location. It is almost like finding a place to live.
Good luck with the place that you are pursuing. Hope that you get it.
My son will be attending kindergarten after the summer. I am so happy that he loves to learn, and he learned to read before he turned five.
I believe I was 7 years old when I started reading, when I was growing up in Cavite City. Pero wala naman kasi kaming pre-school and kinder sa “Pitong Gatang” Rosario, Cavite.
Have a nice weekend.
ron
June 4th, 2005 at
As a parent you just want the best for your child.
Areas do play a role in the quality of school that exist.
June 4th, 2005 at
good luck ruth, i hope you’ll find the best one for your little “big” boy! happy weekend!
June 4th, 2005 at
yeah, if we could get the best, why not di ba. i guess environment is very important, your jan will stay a good portion of the day there, so better be sure he’s in good hands…
June 4th, 2005 at
hi ruthie — good luck! i can relate! i worry about bea’s high school! the only high school in our area does not have a good reputation and the other good state schools are all zoned so i am starting to get worried where I can enroll her. It’s only 4 years away! yaiks!
June 4th, 2005 at
we have na. we signed-up before JP turned one.
June 5th, 2005 at
ron, the fees we have to pay doesn’t vary much whichever we choose since most of them are subsidized by the government. hay naku, sa barrio din namin sa los baños, hindi pa uso ang kinder during my time. i went straight to grade 1!
xtine naman, four years pa pala eh! sus! si jan din, 4 years from now, primary school naman ang susunod naming problema. but can’t plan that yet since we don’t know where we’re gonna be even next year, ngek!
June 5th, 2005 at
hey ruth!
agree ako diyan sa learn by play principle. good luck sa paghananap ninyo ng kiga for jan. sana makuha niya yung slot na yon.
noong nagturo ako ng preschool for 3 years yahn ang learning strategy na kinagustuhan ko, palibhasa deprived childhood kasi kaya ako rin gustong maglaro with my preschoolers. have a great week ahead!
June 9th, 2005 at
it’s nice to learn about the school system (or at least kindergarten) in germany. moving here to the states, i was surprised to find out that public schools are as good (if not better) than private schools. hope you’ll be happy with your selection!