and the debate goes on…
i’ve an itch that’s yearning to be scratched.
annaM did it. bambit did it. linnor did it. i know how strongly i’ve voiced my opinion regarding working mothers to very young children, but now that jan is nearly three and will soon start in the kindergarten, i’m starting to wonder whether i should, too. i’m scared, i’m doubtful, and i’ve the confidence of a fledgling about to make its first flight.
how many falls will it take before i can soar?
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14 Responses to “and the debate goes on…”
June 15th, 2005 at
GO FOR IT RUTH ! I’m sure you’ll do great! Of course it’ll take time to make adjustments but that’s normal! You know the first-day-of-work feeling? when you feel like you’re so out of place and that you feel like you don’t deserve the job? happens to every one of us. all my (virtual) encouragement and support when you finally do start to take that flight! good luck!
June 15th, 2005 at
i took that flight when paul was 1 and a half…i accepted a 3 month project, and worked like a dog for two weeks and was kind of like on a break for the next two weeks. it was good, it paid good money, and it gave me the chance to decide whether i really wanted to go back to the working world. (i stayed only because i needed the money!)
sometimes, i wish i could devote all my time to kev now, but then i do need to work. the best compromise? less hours. i requested for less hours after i had given birth. works best for me, and i do know that my husband and the children are my priority.
June 15th, 2005 at
if the job you’ll get naman is something that’s parallel to the time Jan is in kindergarten, GO FOR IT! time-management as you’ve always told me, now ako naman hihirit hehe…you have more space to flutter your wings, isa lang siya (TATLO akin) tali talaga ako schedule-wise and i can’t wait for the time na one day i could also get a normal job. (for my sanity’s sake ;)) and what falls are you afraid of? kaya mo yan.
June 15th, 2005 at
I don’t want to throw back your reply to my queries (http://myhideaway04.blogspot.com/2005/04/wanted-yaya.html), but just give it a second thought ;).
Well, if you really have this urge, why not give it a try, then check if it’s really you’re cup of tea. You could always back out naman. I think you’re a reasonable woman so I’m sure you could do the balance between work and family life. I’m not into this situation yet but I would really like to do both, if possible.
Whatever the decision is, goodluck!
June 15th, 2005 at
at least ruth, you have the options and skills to fly and soar…others don’t.
borrowing from your blog’s moniker, a butterfly doesn’t live in a cocoon forever, its nature is to fly…so be confident and spread your wings. good luck!!!
June 15th, 2005 at
Ruth, i flew here in germany not knowing what was in store for me; whether i cope up with the working standard(challenge baga) here or not, but seeing you taking on things, well doubt creeps in, i guess thats normal…. i would love to see you test the waters… I will follow, dali dive na
Youre always a good frame of reference to me. Come on girl lets flourish 
June 15th, 2005 at
I agree with Misis14!!!
Go, Ruth!
June 16th, 2005 at
Kaya naman kung kakayanin. It’s a mind game! Kaya mo yan!
June 16th, 2005 at
Kaya mo yan Ruthie!!!
June 18th, 2005 at
naku, kayang kaya mo yan, ruth … pero if i may express my own feelings din … i worked for a few years before sam and i got married so i know both ends of the stick, working mom and stay-at-home mom. sa totoo lang, masarap maging pensionado ng asawa! kung hindi nga lang kailangan, i would rather stay home and take care of my babies.
pero yes, after a couple of years you get to thinking of independence again, your growing child’s as well as your own.
June 18th, 2005 at
ruthie,
it is but normal to feel a bit apprehensive about this, but i can sense that you are a very strong woman, plus smarty pa, you will be able to juggle the roles of being a wife, mom and career person, kung nakaya ng iba, mas kakayanin mo! go, go, go! God bless!
June 19th, 2005 at
I too had the opportunity to experience being a working mom (15 years) and a stay-at-home mom (7mos). After being a SAHM for about 7 months, I went back to work with a heavy heart. It was mainly because resources were just enough for the basic needs and one window of opportunity remained shut. I didnt really have to work but without sounding too selfish, I missed having my own means to do/buy things without touching the budget. It was a tough decision to make and the job didn’t come easy as well. But with prayers and the support of my hubs added to my credentials, I was able to do it. However, if resources were unlimited, SAHM it is for me.
My advice is for you to know what your heart desires and to go for it. God bless you!
June 21st, 2005 at
why do you even think about falling? soar, paru-paro, soar! btw, if what you plan to do has anything to do with writing, there’s no way you’ll fail.
June 22nd, 2005 at
uhmm, have another baby?