ask and you shall receive
how many times have you shied away from asking for something– a favor from a friend, a pay raise from your boss, a recommendation letter from a mentor?
even if we honestly believe we deserve something, we are sometimes reluctant to ask for it. in my case, it probably part-discomfiture, part-stubbornness, part-pride. i’d like my efforts to be rewarded automatically, without having to ask for it (you know, the same way i’d like hubby to figure out what my problem is, wihtout me having to say it, haha!). often, i am too worried of inconveniencing other people to ask favors, that rather than asking outright, i would wait for them to make an offer. i realize there’s something faulty in this school of thought, but am probably too scared of rejection to muster the courage to just, well, ask.
it doesn’t work all the time, and we shouldn’t expect it to. but sometimes, difficult and to some point embarassing though it may be, it pays well to just simply ask. yesterday i did, after a lot of fidgeting and thumb-twirling, and today, i received.
i should do this more often. either that, or maybe i should wear one of thosepet tags saying “i need something. please, ask me what it is!”
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8 Responses to “ask and you shall receive”
December 15th, 2005 at
I know this well,those tampu tampu pa epek won’t work pala,conveying a clear message is indeed the best thing to do lalo na if you’re dealing with alemans
Pero wag kang hihingi ng bagong bahay,bagong kotse at malawak lupa sa akin ha,yan ang hindi ko maibigay,hehe
December 15th, 2005 at
i guess we have to know the limits of what to ask for. depends too on the person you’re asking. me, i ask if i feel comfortable with the person and situation, if not…then malas ko. hehe
December 15th, 2005 at
I don’t feel comfortable asking for help either. I like to do things independently because I don’t want to bother other people. And ayoko rin ma-feel ng ibang tao na inaabuso ko ang kanilang kabaitan. I’d rather be the one on the “giving” end. But there are times talaga na hindi maiiwasan, and tinatanaw kong malaking utang na loob ang mga bagay na naitulong sa akin ng aking kapwa.
December 15th, 2005 at
Just like you I don’t like to bother other people. In my own way, I do everything I can. I guess, creative ka rin at maparaan.
Pag minsan di ko rin type tumulong lalo na pag alam ko, dahil lang sa katamaran ang pag hingi nya ng tulong.
Found you in my unupdated blog.
Thank you
December 15th, 2005 at
the spanish have this saying “si no lloras, no mamas” which when translated literally means “if you don’t cry, you won’t have milk” in reference of course, to a baby.
December 16th, 2005 at
I guess it all depends. If it’s a favor from a friend or a family member, it is okay to sometimes wait it out until they offer. However, if it’s about work then iba na yon. I have always believed that if you think you deserve, say, a raise, then go and ask.
December 21st, 2005 at
cheH, haha, oo, di pwede ang paramdam-system, kailangan minsan garapalan, haha!
tour lang ng munich, ok na ako! 
husticia, agree. although i also consider whether the person would be comfortable with the favor, as well.
rhada, naku, that’s what i forgot to say. in retrospect, i think that’s one of my main reasons too… i don’t want to be thougth of as “user-friendly”, hehe…
myepinoy, naku, buti naman nakadalaw ka. i wouldn’t have been able to retrace my way back to your blog. thanks for dropping by…
AnP, yep, totally agree. i learned that too late, hehe…
December 22nd, 2005 at
i have a lot of trouble asking even though i know i deserve it na. masyado ba tayong mabait!?