more on slow parenting
this sums up why, if it was only financially feasible, i wouldn’t put jan into a local school:
The problem is that academic hothousing is subject to the law of diminishing returns.
True, it can sometimes yield the sort of results that make teachers gawp and parents crow: but what about the longer term? Does all that early learning pay off later?
No. The latest research suggests that reaching learning milestones early is no guarantee of future academic stardom.One study in Philadelphia found that, by the age of seven or eight, there was no discernible gap between the performance of children who spent their pre-school years in nurseries that were rigidly academic and those who came from laid-back, play-based ones. The only difference was that the hothoused kids tended to be more anxious and less creative.
While many believe that knowing letters, numbers, shapes and colours is the best preparation for school, teachers take a very different view. They say that the child who arrives at reception socially adept, who knows how to share, empathise and follow instructions, will stand a better chance of mastering the three Rs later on.
The argument that more testing and toil is the best way to shape them for life in the 21st century is starting to fray at the edges. A report by King’s College London suggests that the cognitive development of British children is slowed by spending too little time messing around outdoors.
“By stressing only the basics - reading and writing - and testing like crazy you reduce the level of cognitive stimulation,” says Philip Adey, professor of education at King’s College. “Children have the facts but they are not thinking very well.”
In the future, the biggest rewards will go not to the yes-men who know how to serve up an oven-ready answer, but to the nimble-minded innovators who can think across disciplines, delve into a problem for the sheer hell of it and relish the challenge of learning throughout their lives.
unfortunately, even if i sell both my kidneys, we don’t be able to come up with the thousands of dollars required to even land a place in the german school, for example, which is asking for some 10K euro as a kind of bond, and annual school fees of more than S$15K. arrrgh!
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9 Responses to “more on slow parenting”
March 31st, 2008 at
There’s always homeschooling. *cough* I’ve long since abandoned that idea because I can’t provide the same kind of emotional/social stimulation and practice at home.
March 31st, 2008 at
Hi Hsien! Homeschooling? Oh no, I don’t think I have it it me! Pity the child!
March 31st, 2008 at
me, i’d rather that they have a less pushed road towards learning. instead of enjoying and gaining the child’s interest, baka mawala pa kasi mainis.
April 1st, 2008 at
ang mahal naman ng german school dyan! we’re thinking very very hard about bringing the kids to pinas in the future.. may german school din sa pinas di ba? pero kung ganyan din kamahal, ermm, i dont know!
April 2nd, 2008 at
That’s one of the reason why we’re planning to migrate to OZ. Isa pa sa reason e sobrang mahal na ng flats dito, pero ang salary increase naman ang liit.
April 2nd, 2008 at
hi ruth. i’ve bookmarked your entries related to slow parenting. one of the reasons why we moved to AU is Amelie’s schooling. baka pareho kami bumigay ng anak ko sa stress if we put her to a sg public school and sending her to an IS is not a joke, pagkamahal!
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April 4th, 2008 at
amen to the articles, ruthie…i have been personally battling with my parenting abilities — am i doing enough for Bea? Am i giving her the best there is? Here kasi sa NZ, the approach is soooo laid back (for me naman, feeling ko over laid back), i think striking the balance between allowing your children to grow and learn at their own pace with encouragement from the parents can be a happy medium. Easier said than done though! Thank God for Simon. He keeps me grounded when I fret about Bea and all. He always reminds me “Let her be a child”
April 5th, 2008 at
That sure is a scary prospect for what Jan could turn out to be in the future, being schooled the way they are in SG public schools. And it’s not like you can choose not to keep up with it on the home front either (for want of maybe giving him an alternative climate) without risk of Jan turning out an underachiever in school. Seems like a vicious cycle. I do hope you will find another alternative for Jan.
April 9th, 2008 at
steph/tin, if worse comes to worst, and we see that it really isn’t working out for jan, we are open to the option of moving out as well… for the moment, though, we’re taking the wait-and-see approach.
christine, it’s a balancing act talaga!
jet, mismo! it’s not as if there’s any choice. it’s very difficult not to go along with the system. altho on a positive note, the system itself is changing naman daw.