it’s been a week since i rediscovered facebook, and i still don’t quite know what to make of it. i can see how it’s become the social networking of choice for many, combining friendster, chat, email, blog, photo sharing and other applications all rolled into one. i see a lot even busy with cattle supplies on their virtual farms.
however, i’m not yet so comfortable posting “what’s on my mind” just like that.
you see, one thing i realized is that my facebook connections or “friends” are people i’ve crossed paths with over the last three decades or so. there are those i’ve gotten to know just recently, and there are those who still remember who were my pals in third grade (details even i don’t remember anymore!). i know them at different levels. some are family, close friends, former colleagues, and there are a handful i have remotely worked with and have never even seen personally. and i’m not exactly sure if i could easily share my thoughts (pictures, links, etc) with A, a tech guy i absolutely have nothing in common with except that we used to work for the same blogging network, compared to B, who probably already knows every significant event in my life anyway, facebook or no facebook.
but, and this is the part i am enjoying, i am blown away how i got reconnected with so many friends and classmates from way back. people i haven’t seen in decades, and all it takes a simple “heya, how are you?” to bring back the memories buried deep deep into the recesses of my mind. it’s amazing how a few postings melt the time and geographical gap, making it feel like you never lost contact at all. it’s like a class reunion, sans the awkwardness.
facebook also made me face a character flaw: i am so bad at keeping in touch with friends. j is giving birth soon and i didn’t even know she was pregnant. v is pregnant with her second, and i haven’t heard from her since high school graduation. n is now a lawyer, and i am still confused as i know she had a bachelor’s degree in zoology. and dozens more of such revelations.
i realize that i need to make more effort to keep communication lines not just open but also active if i want to nurture friendships, considering i’ve relocated many times and likely to move residences again in the future. ahhh, maybe i’ll be a facebook fan after all.